The Modern Man

Hi reader,

One common thing I see in a lot of the men I coach is that their emotions have control over their actions. They let fear stop them and they let anger consume them.

For example, when I was around 18 years old - naive to emotions, thinking I was invincible. Partying, playing sport, being a ‘lad’. I always knew there was something not quite right, I’d hold myself back from speaking up for myself, speaking to girls I liked, putting myself in situations of growth. Anxiety was my biggest struggle.

People described me as ‘quiet’. This hurt deep down because I didn’t like it, I knew I wanted to speak more but anxiety gripped me and I’d always fumble my words and get really fucking annoying brain fog.

Since then I’ve been on a journey. To discover my true self and how to live and be as healthy as possible in mind and body…

These 5 steps helped me massively in overcoming the crippling anxiety I experienced.

1. Get your physiology right

Anxiety is a sign that something is out of balance. The first place to look is the fundamentals.. Eating, moving, sleeping & breathing. I’ll link you to a free training so you can dive deeper on this…

2. Reframe past experiences

The framework for this is…

R - Renegotiate the past experience

E - Exit the old perceptions

F - Forgive yourself and others

R - Release repressed energy

A - Accept the changes at a heart level

M - Mentally refresh (being again..)

E - Emotionally Renew

We’ll go into this in more detail in a later newsletter…

3. Responding

In the moment responding to any anxiety or negative emotions that arise within the first 10 seconds…

R - Reply to the Idea

E - Be Effective

S - Strengthen the new interpretation

P - Head in a positive direction

O - Own the new response

N - Question the Negatives

D - Direct consciously

I’ve created a PDF with some information and responding exercises for you to use, grab it…

4. Surround yourself with a rock solid support network

Something we pride ourselves on here in the Modern Man programme, being in with a group of like minded men, all supporting each other to reach the common goal of being our best as a man and raising the calibre of Men in society…

Finding your people is a must for us to be mentally and emotionally our best.

5. Give yourself credit

We often beat ourselves up when things don’t go as we expected or wished. But we rarely give ourselves credit for taking the step. Give yourself some credit for taking action.

For reading this far…

Give those 5 steps a go and you’ll be well on your way to more emotional freedom less anxiety and a healthier response to anger.

Feel free to watch the first training of a 3 part series called ‘Conquering Anxiety’ here…

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